David leads product development at a technology company. During a meeting, Jamal, one of his managers, asks, "Which option do you think we should choose?" David already has an opinion and could answer in seconds. Instead, he asks, "Which option would you recommend, and what are you seeing that makes you choose it?" Jamal pauses, works through the tradeoffs, and reaches the same conclusion David would have given him. The meeting took three minutes longer.
But something different happened: Jamal practiced making the decision instead of borrowing David's.
- David could resolve it in seconds, but supplying the answer trains Jamal to borrow judgment instead of using his own.
- Reflexive responses are initially fast but they are expensive at scale. Leveraging this yields a team that executes but can't decide.
- Routing the analysis back through a question costs a few minutes now and compounds capability later.
What is answer dependency?
Answer dependency is a pattern where people look to the leader for the right answer instead of thinking, deciding, and owning outcomes themselves.
The symptoms of answer dependency include escalation problems too early, waiting for the leader to decide or initiate first, asking "what should I do", and that the leader spends an exorbitant amount of time on "fix it" conversations.
Answer dependency forms when the leader lacks coaching skills and they have not learned to explore and ask questions.
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